Child-rearing is tough, no question about it. It’s so tough, in fact, there are hundreds, nay, thousands of books out there telling us all what to do, how to do it and why we should do it their way.
*ahem* The Dude’s Guide To Babies, coming for Father’s Day 2013
Anyway. Back to those other books. Every young dude and dudette are unique, which leads to problems in trying to follow advice from someone. Your baby is different. That leads to all these authors trying to find categories by which they can divide the vast sea of babies with parents desperate for help.
Priscilla J. Dunstan is one such author. She’s got a new book out called Child Sense: From Birth to Age 5, How to Use the 5 Senses to Make Sleeping, Eating, Dressing, and Other Everyday Activities Easier While Strengthening Your Bond With Child. Boy, sure sure likes wordy titles.
I can’t vouch for the utility of the book, but she’s making some sense in newspaper articles she’s writing that are being used to promote the book. I think you dudes can take that as a slightly favorable endorsement. She might descend into gibberish for the rest of the book, but this stuff makes sense.
What she’s talking about is how difficult it can be to add a new baby to a family that already has a kid attached. She’s not kidding. When Zippy the Monkey Boy came along, poor Sarcasmo started acting out as a desperate attempt to get attention. That quickly passed, though, and Sarcasmo started doing all the talking for the both of them. Back to the article, though.
Dunstan divides all babies based on which sense they primarily use to help them interpretate the world: auditory, tactile (touch), visual and taste-smell. Seems a bit odd, but nothing out of bounds considering the value teachers place on various different learning styles. She suggests that by using your child’s dominant sense, you can help the little dude overcome his anxiety. To wit:
Tactile children can get frustrated with your inability to be as active as you were before you were pregnant and they will worry that this is permanent. They can become very grabby and clingy towards Mom and Dad, often trying to climb on your knee or wanting to be carried everywhere. Try to involve them in the pregnancy by letting them feel when the baby kicks, talking about the games they will be able to do with their new sibling and letting them help set up and decorate the baby’s room. Giving them a doll that they can practice on is also a good idea, as they may need to learn how to be gentle with their sibling-to-be.
See, not a bad idea. She goes on to talk about some suggestions for little dudettes who focus on different senses over at the article to which I’m linking. As I said, she’s making some good sense. Maybe you might want to check her out.