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Escape From The Steep Gravity Well Of The Mediocre

This is one of those strange sorts of days here at Casa de Dude. By strange, I mean we’re having someone other than Barry or me step in and talk for a bit.

In this case, please welcome Shawn Anderson, author and speaker. Miss-ter Ann-der-son (heh heh heh) sent out an e-mail I quite enjoyed. Instead of adapting it for you dudes, I thought I’d just let the man himself do the talking since I liked what he had to say.

So, take it away, Shawn Anderson.

Wake-up alarm sounds. Hit snooze button. Steal ten minutes more sleep. Groan. Get coffee. Wake kids. Take shower. Get dressed. Yell at kids. Drive to work. Slump into chair. Check email. Check Facebook. Meet deadlines. Waste time chatting. Watch clock. Check Facebook again. Sneak out early. Wait in traffic. Get groceries. Chaperone kids. Shout about homework. Make dinner. Watch TV. Go to bed. Repeat.

Of course, there is no way this sounds familiar. Right? Maybe to our friends, but never to us. Not to worry…this is for them. (The friends.)

To help those “friends” who are stuck in a life rut, motivational guru Shawn Anderson shares three quick rut-escaping tips you can provide to those who need emergency advice and are living the same day over…and over…and over:

TIP #1: Quit living in Mediocreland.

Stuck on mediocrity? Well, look in the mirror at the person responsible. It’s you. You created your average-ness…and you can un-create it, too. Want out of the rut? Quit making excuses, quit pointing fingers, and quit waiting for a miracle to fly you out of Mediocreland. If you’re ever going to leave the world of average, you need to start creating the changes you seek. Cast a vision. Create a plan. Take massive action. Passive residents are not allowed to fly.

TIP #2: Don’t expect an overnight miracle.

It’s impossible to go from “ice cold” (in the rut) to “red hot” (out of the rut) overnight. Massive change just doesn’t happen that way. Don’t expect it. Do expect, though, that you can grow to “red hot” if you hold yourself accountable to take one step a day towards the changes you want in your life. Single steps daily add up to big changes eventually.


TIP #3: Don’t wait for perfect.

Waiting for the perfect scenario to unfold before making changes? Your reasons to wait before taking action might sound good in your head now. The problem is that five years down the road those same reasons will probably still exist…and you’ll probably still be in a rut.

Life is too short to wait for the stars to fall into perfect alignment before we take life action. Live and live now. Otherwise, waiting too long for the right risk-taking moment eventually leads to paralyzing fear…which leads to complacency…which leads to “I don’t care” acceptance.

The author of six motivational books, including A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose, Shawn Anderson lives and breathes all things related to “going the extra mile” in order to live a life we love. Last year, Anderson’s Extra Mile America organization led 444 cities to declare 11/1/13 as “Extra Mile Day”… a day recognizing the capacity we each have to create positive change for ourselves, families, organizations and communities when we go the extra mile.

“My feeling is ‘we get one life’ so why ever choose to live it with anything less than our deepest passion and most ardent dedication? We create the life we live…one way or another,” Anderson says.

Shawn Anderson is a six-time author, keynote speaker and motivational success coach. His book titles include A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose. For more information, visit www.ShawnAnderson.com.

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And Then There Was The Time He Kept Talking About Sleep And Teenagers

by Richard

It’s no secret that teenagers like to sleep. A lot. Like all afternoon if you let them. And then the young dudes wake up only long enough to grab a decidedly unhealthy snack before heading back to bed for another nap before going out and staying up all night. The fact that teenaged dudes and dudettes, who have been scientifically proven to need more sleep than other types of young dudes, are the ones who have the earliest start times for school continues to baffle me.

However, I’m not the only person who has issues with this lack of sleep that most of today’s teenagers are facing. Sure, it’s mostly self-imposed issues, in that they stay up too late when they know they have to get up early, but it’s something that needs to be worked on. Of course, considering that teenagers don’t have functioning frontal lobes of their brains (and that’s where the thinking takes place), we’re going to have to step in and help them out more than a little.

Cribbing from the local paper, I came up with seven good ideas to help teenaged dudes and dudettes get a good night’s sleep.

The first thing they need to do is determine how much sleep they need each night so they wake refreshed and ready to take on a day full of studying, texting and learning. With maybe some eating thrown in there for good measure. Not everyone needs the same amount of sleep. If you rearrange everything to get six hours of sleep and need seven, well, you’ve set up for failure.

Secondly, remember that an exercised body is one that will be tired at bedtime. Seriously, go out and get some exercise and you’ll relax the body after, which sets it up for sleep later that night.

Thirdly, cut off the stimulation before going to bed. That is, turn off the cell phone, get the computer unplugged and don’t watch TV for about an hour of bedtime. Believe it or not, the lights from these electronic gizmos can stimulate the brain to wakefulness.

Fourthly, remember that there is a pretty significant difference between quality and quantity. If you stay in bed for 10 hours, but you’re tossing and turning, and not letting your brain dive down into deep REM sleep, it’s a waste of time.

Fifthly (and, yes, I know there’s no such word. Give me a break.), and here’s where our actions really come into play. We’ve got to make sure the young dudes and dudettes really understand the value of a good night’s sleep. For one thing, lack of sleep can inhibit their growth and emotional development. So there, teenagers.

Sixthly, we need to probably cut a little slack for those teenagers who don’t actually do all we’re telling them to do regarding sleep. That is, if they want to sleep late on the weekends, let ’em. That’s the sort of advice that my wife, known to me as She Who Must Be Up And About Very, Very Early Because She’s A Bit Off Her Nut, will never take to heart. Sleeping late is anathema to her. Which isn’t good for me, but that’s another story.

Finally, we need to — when all is done and said — leave this pretty much up to them. We can provide them with the facts, the advantages to getting enough sleep, the disadvantages of going sleep deprived, all that information, but it’s up to them whether they actually use any of it. These dane-bramaged adults-in-training-pants need to find out what works for them. For instance, Sarcasmo was having a lot of problems his first semester off at High Point University because he was staying up too late every night and then sleeping through his alarm. He had to readjust his sleep time so he went to bed earlier. He’s doing better now, but it’s still a close thing.

Now that we’re at the end of this, I’m just hoping you stayed awake long enough to get something from it.

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