Apparently I’m not done talking about sharing. I’m a giver that way, you know. I like to share.
The sharing I’m talking about now is interests and hobbies. Yeah, I think it’s pretty important for you to show an interest in what she likes, just as it’s important for her to take an interest in what fascinates you. And, no, women don’t count in that. I’m talking sports or reading or stuff you could do together. No. Still not that, either.
Doing something together is not only a lot of fun, especially if it’s competitive, but it also builds bridges of shared experience between you and your loved one. These renewing bonds are great to have in any relationship, but it’s extremely important in a marriage you want to work.
That said, however, I strongly believe there is a place in every marriage for each person to have his or her own space. You might share everything from the soap to the bed-making duties to the card night, but that doesn’t mean you should each go butting into the other’s every little space. Leave some room for you to be you and her to be her, rather than for you both to be a couple.
Individuality is just as important for long-term survival of any relationship as is togetherness. You need a place where you can still stand alone, as yourself, working on making you better at, well, whatever. A stronger you leads to a stronger couple.
Sure, share. But also be wise enough that being a little bit selfish and demanding some time on your own (to meet with the guys for golf or bowling or for a book club or whatever) is a good thing for any marriage.
Now, if you decide that your time alone would best be spent at a strip club. . . Well, then you might have to do a little rethinking. Once you run out of $1 bills, that is.