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Escape From The Steep Gravity Well Of The Mediocre

This is one of those strange sorts of days here at Casa de Dude. By strange, I mean we’re having someone other than Barry or me step in and talk for a bit.

In this case, please welcome Shawn Anderson, author and speaker. Miss-ter Ann-der-son (heh heh heh) sent out an e-mail I quite enjoyed. Instead of adapting it for you dudes, I thought I’d just let the man himself do the talking since I liked what he had to say.

So, take it away, Shawn Anderson.

Wake-up alarm sounds. Hit snooze button. Steal ten minutes more sleep. Groan. Get coffee. Wake kids. Take shower. Get dressed. Yell at kids. Drive to work. Slump into chair. Check email. Check Facebook. Meet deadlines. Waste time chatting. Watch clock. Check Facebook again. Sneak out early. Wait in traffic. Get groceries. Chaperone kids. Shout about homework. Make dinner. Watch TV. Go to bed. Repeat.

Of course, there is no way this sounds familiar. Right? Maybe to our friends, but never to us. Not to worry…this is for them. (The friends.)

To help those “friends” who are stuck in a life rut, motivational guru Shawn Anderson shares three quick rut-escaping tips you can provide to those who need emergency advice and are living the same day over…and over…and over:

TIP #1: Quit living in Mediocreland.

Stuck on mediocrity? Well, look in the mirror at the person responsible. It’s you. You created your average-ness…and you can un-create it, too. Want out of the rut? Quit making excuses, quit pointing fingers, and quit waiting for a miracle to fly you out of Mediocreland. If you’re ever going to leave the world of average, you need to start creating the changes you seek. Cast a vision. Create a plan. Take massive action. Passive residents are not allowed to fly.

TIP #2: Don’t expect an overnight miracle.

It’s impossible to go from “ice cold” (in the rut) to “red hot” (out of the rut) overnight. Massive change just doesn’t happen that way. Don’t expect it. Do expect, though, that you can grow to “red hot” if you hold yourself accountable to take one step a day towards the changes you want in your life. Single steps daily add up to big changes eventually.


TIP #3: Don’t wait for perfect.

Waiting for the perfect scenario to unfold before making changes? Your reasons to wait before taking action might sound good in your head now. The problem is that five years down the road those same reasons will probably still exist…and you’ll probably still be in a rut.

Life is too short to wait for the stars to fall into perfect alignment before we take life action. Live and live now. Otherwise, waiting too long for the right risk-taking moment eventually leads to paralyzing fear…which leads to complacency…which leads to “I don’t care” acceptance.

The author of six motivational books, including A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose, Shawn Anderson lives and breathes all things related to “going the extra mile” in order to live a life we love. Last year, Anderson’s Extra Mile America organization led 444 cities to declare 11/1/13 as “Extra Mile Day”… a day recognizing the capacity we each have to create positive change for ourselves, families, organizations and communities when we go the extra mile.

“My feeling is ‘we get one life’ so why ever choose to live it with anything less than our deepest passion and most ardent dedication? We create the life we live…one way or another,” Anderson says.

Shawn Anderson is a six-time author, keynote speaker and motivational success coach. His book titles include A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose. For more information, visit www.ShawnAnderson.com.

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And Zip Said, “Let There Be Light!”

by Richard

Hard as it is to believe, we’re actually on the downside of the school year. And with the end of the school year, comes the end-of-year projects that most students are being assigned right now.

This is the time of year when I have to see all the work the young dudes get, see the desperation in their eyes, see their shoulders slump with the weight of the projects’ difficulty, see their hands tremble with just the knowledge of how exhausted they’ll be. And I love it because I’m not the one who has to actually do the work.

I’ve already done high school and middle school. Sure I’ll give the young dudes a little direction here and there, but I don’t do the work for them; partly because it’s their project and they need to learn from it and partly because I’m just too darn lazy.

But I’m thinking of changing my stance for Zippy the Monkey Boy’s project. He’s taking an elective called World Religions, which is basically a survey of the numerous religions and cults around this wide, wonderful and weird world. His project is that he is tasked with creating his own religion, wholly new (for the most part) and unique to him. The only stricture is that he must take this seriously and not make a joke out of it.

Basically, he gets to be L. Ron Hubbard, but try to make it more believable.

This, dudes, is one very cool assignment.

I mean, he gets to analytically break down religion and see what components they each have in common. Use reasoning to come up with ideas that make sense in a religion. Come up with a creation myth that doesn’t contradict itself. Try to create a holy book that can’t be used as a justification for slavery or the systematic oppression of women or minorities. I think this really will be great for him in that he’ll learn to approach religion from a reasoned point of view rather than falling back on blind belief.

As a minister*, I am, of course interested in religion and how it’s perceived. That makes this a whole lot of fun. He’s already come up with some clever ideas. In his religion, the universe was created by cosmic gods, who calculated themselves into existence. That’s out in the real world. We, you see, don’t live in the real world, but in a computer simulation, run by the cosmic gods.

Sure, that bit’s not original and there are actual scientists who assure us the odds of us living in a simulation are almost certain, but that’s good. The best lies have an element of truth in them.

I’ve already seen several of the notions he’s intending to incorporate into his religion and it looks to be fascinating. Because he’s basing this on computers and similar things, he’s making a bit deal about duality, the either-or state. Because computers think in binary everything is either a 1 or a 0. There is no in between.

Like I said, this is going to be cool. I can’t wait till I see what he comes up with. Even more, I can’t wait until he gets his first convert.


*No, seriously. I am. I’ve got the certificate to prove it. Universal Life Church for the win, baby!

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by Richard

I’m bald. I say this without cringing. I mean, I’ve been losing my hair since I was near 16, so you’d think I’d have time to get used to the idea.

I even started shaving my head just so I could stop paying $8 every couple of months to have someone trim the few scraggles that messed up the even line of stragglers hanging over my collar.

The deal is, though, every couple of years, I stop shaving just to see what a head (partially) full of hair looks like and to see how much gray is growing in up there in place of what used to be red hair.

Now is just such a time. I actually stopped shaving this time because I had a bit of a bad head month. I kept whacking the top of my head against things, eventually causing a big mess up there. Now, not shaving won’t cover anything up because, let’s face it, there’s no hair growing up there anyway, but it will stop me bleeding when the razor slices through the healing spot.

So I’ve been growing out my hair for a couple of weeks now and I’ve found something interesting, dudes. When the wind blows, I can actually feel my hair move. And it’s something I think I miss.

Normally, when I feel hair move, it means I need to start trimming my mustache and — really — that’s not something we need to dwell on.

Finally, after 30 years of thinning hair, I think I’ve grown to miss having hair.

Wow. That was the very definition of a lack of profundity. Can you tell I’m in a bit of a post-Thanksgiving slump? Hopefully things will be better tomorrow.




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