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Resolving To Take A Stand Against Resolutions. . . Wait

Don’t do it, dudes.

Seriously, don’t waste your time reviewing your life, targeting the clichéd elements like your weight, and making resolutions that — more than likely — you won’t actually keep.

Now, it’s not like we’re suggesting that you should just continue blindly on along the path for your life you set for yourself when you were 14. We agree that the unexamined life isn’t worth living.

You definitely should look at your life periodically, see if you are the sort of man you want to be. If you’re not there yet, then, by all means, make changes to get yourself there. There is always a difference between who we want to be and who we actually are. It’s the mark of a good dude, a good man or woman, that you actually chart a path to your goal and actually work to get there.

Wishing to be seen as a better person is no good unless you actually do your best to become that better person.

So, yes, definitely, take the occasional moral and behavioral inventory. Find those things that aren’t working and flush ’em. Find the parts that are working and build on their strengths.

Just don’t do it today, on New Year’s Day.

Resolutions have a nasty habit of being time-locked and reactionary. That is, what went wrong in the last little while before New Year’s Day? Then we tend to make resolutions that slightly address those issues and not the underlying causes that give rise to the events that are causing us to make resolutions.

For most people, looking back over the course of a year and remembering the things we did wrong or the things we did right, and why we did each of them, is an exercise in futility. Human memory is more fallible than we like to admit. We tend to remember the things with the most emotional weight attached to them, rather than those that are emotionally neutral. And even those things become embroidered over time.

We don’t remember what actually happened, but, rather, what we think happened. And there can be a vast gulf of difference between the two. Which means you might be making resolutions that are more worthless than normal.

Today is — most likely — a day off work. It’s a day for football and fun. Rather than spending too long in contemplation of sins past and entering the new year in a bad mood, or rushing through and slapping a few resolutions for change together, knowing full well you’re not going to keep them, just relax a bit today.

Instead, set aside a little time every three or four months to look back over your behavior during that time and make changes to your life that way. I’ve even got this stuck in my calendar. It pops up every three months, an alert reminding myself to look in a mirror for a while.

Resolve to be a better man or a better woman, but work for those changes over a shorter period of time. That way, you can keep up your enthusiasm for change and still be excited when you reach your goal, ready to start another.

Resolved: No resolutions today. Other than that one, of course.

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Sunday Shouting. . . About Us. . . Again

It’s all about A Dude’s Guide to Babies here today, dudes. If you’re interested. . . You’re in the right place and you’re going to be very happy.

If not, well, sorry. Check back later and we’ll probably have something that will interest you. Wait, on second thought, why not stay? Maybe I can change your mind. We’ll see.

Here’s the deal, folks. If you’ve been thinking bout buying a copy of A Dude’s Guide to Babies all for yourownself from Amazon.com, now’s the time to do it. The more purchases we have in the first week, the more people will see it because it’s ranked higher. That’s good for us.

And, if you do buy a copy, please make sure to go back to Amazon.com and leave a review. It’s the same thing as the sales. The more reviews we get, the more people will come and look at the book, which will lead to more people buying the book. Please, please, please.

The earlier the purchase, the earlier the review, the better. We’d really appreciate it.

To show that appreciation, we’re going to be giving away an autographed copy of A Dude’s Guide to Babies. Barry and I will sign it, saying pretty much anything you want. All you need to do is send either of us an e-mail and tell us your funniest reason for wanting a copy of the book. Should we get more than one entry, we’ll pick one out at random. We’ll also give away a book to the best commenter (or one chosen at random) in this comment thread.

This give away is in addition to the book we’re giving away with all the WebMD swag we talked about Thursday and Friday, and in addition to the book we’re giving away on Facebook. It’s e-mail for the first one and simply liking the A Dude’s Guide page on Facebook for the second.

What generous fellas, us.

Speaking of generous, we’re giving of ourselves once again.

We’re going to be interviewed for an actual hour on Charlotte Talks, a local radio talk show on WFAE 90.7 FM here in Charlotte. This show has been on the air for years and is a true patriarch in the local broadcasting scene. Why they want to sully their reputation by hosting us is, well, sort of beyond our understanding. But we’re not going to pass it up, you understand.

We’ll be on from 9 to 10 am on Monday, March 25. The show is broadcast on 90.7 FM in the Charlotte area, and is on the internet as well if you want to stream live. It should be interesting.

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Look At Me!

by Richard

No, seriously. Look at me!

And now for a moment of pure self-promotion and ego rubbing.

Not sure how it happened, but — out of the blue — I received a request for a copy of one of my stories, Freakshow, so a lady could review it for her website, Weirdthings.com.

I was, to say the least, quite thrilled.

Here, without any ado at all, is where you can find the review.

If you dudes are intrigued by the review, you can find Freakshow and a number of other stories in a similar vein, at Amazon.com by clicking here.

I’ll climb down off the soapbox now and let you dudes get back to your non-Richard lives now.

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