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Pajama Party

I could spend every day in my pajamas.

But I don’t.

As a stay-at-home dad, I don’t have to dress up to go to work because I’m already at work and, for most of the years I was the SAHD (not really sad with a Southern accent like it looks), wearing a tie would only give the little dudes something else to grab.

As a freelance writer and editor, I don’t have to change out of my pajamas because most of my work takes place at the computer screen.

Heck, I’ve even seen people wearing pajamas when they’re out shopping or getting the groceries. So wearing pajamas out and about is now a pretty mainstream thing.

I, however, do change out of my pajamas. I do get dressed every morning in clothing different from what I wore the day before. And, no, I’m not expecting a medal for it. I merely wanted to set the scene before I got into this.

I recently read an article on the Huffington Post by Aaron Gouveia. He’s a dad who now is able to work from home instead of going in to an office.  And he decided it would be okay to wear his pajamas while walking his kid to the bus stop. The occasion of his column, though, was sparked by having to defend this practice from his wife, who objected thoroughly.

The only ones out at the bus stop are our neighbors on the other side of our duplex. We live on a quiet street with hardly any traffic, so it’s not like I’m setting up shop in Times Square. But even if we did live in a highly trafficked area, I mean — THEY’RE PAJAMAS!!

I told her I work hard, and up until now I’ve had to get up early and get dressed in button-down shirts and slacks with dress shoes to head into the office. The beauty of working from home, I told her, is the ability to just laze around like a bum while I do my work. It doesn’t make sense to me to get dressed just to go out to the bus stop, to impress our neighbors (who don’t care what I look like) and 15 elementary school kids who are too busy talking to notice my Patriots PJs.

Sorry, dude, but you’re wrong. Very, very wrong.

The issue here, to me, is that Aaron is confusing what’s good for him with what’s good for everyone else. He might be able to laze around in his pajamas during the day and that’s great. However, no one else wants to see him in his pajamas.

He might assume that the kids on the bus are too busy talking to notice him standing around in his pajamas, but, allow me to assure you, they notice. And they’re saying they notice to Aaron’s young child.

I’m going to have to agree with Aaron’s wife here. People should take a minimal amount of pride in how they look when they go outside and face the world. Yes, I realize that to many folks who have known me for a while this comes as a shock. What can I say? I’ve managed to mature a bit over the years, despite my best efforts otherwise.

Going outside means you’re interacting with other people. I’m not advocating that women must be fully made up and in pressed clothing or men should always have a clean shave and be wearing a tie. Clearly. However, I do suggest the least you can do when you go outside is wear a shirt and some pants.

You might be perfectly comfortable walking around in pajamas, but I assure you that not everyone you meet is nearly as comfortable. This is what it means to live in a society.

We don’t always get to do what we want. We have to sometimes moderate our behavior or appearance, to think of others’ comfort.

Otherwise, I’d probably be lumbering around in a gorilla suit most days. And no one wants that.

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Sunday Serenade: Too Drunk To Karaoke

The release of a new Jimmy Buffett album is always a reason for celebration, and this latest one is no exception.

The collection is called Songs from St. Somewhere and is, in a word, amazeballstastic. I might have just made up that word there, but I think you dudes get my point.

At his best, Buffett is a tremendous combination of rockin’, partyin’ loudmouth and soulful, sensitive crooner. On different songs, of course.

It’s the first part I want to celebrate here. In the tradition of Why Don’t We Get Drunk and Screw? Jimmy swings a duet with Toby Keith called Too Drunk to Karaoke and it is just exactly what you think it is.


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To Santa-Size Or Not To Santa-Size. That Is The Question.

by Richard

Hey! Shakespeare. Who’da thunk there’d be a Shakespeare reference here? Not me, that’s for sure. Anyway, we’re back with five more tips on helping you dudes stay healthy during the holiday season. Obviously, not eating a lot of junk would be step one, but I think we can go into a bit more detail than that.

6. Drop and give me 20, maggot! You’re going to eat this holiday season, no question about it. However, what your body does with it will make a big different in whether you come out of this shaped like a pear or a six pack. Here’s the deal. If you exercise early in the morning, that helps your body store the food you eat as muscle, rather than as fat. I know getting up early and going to the gym or hitting the streets is tough, but — hey — sometimes dudes gotta be tough. Here’s a good exercise regime, not just for the holidays, but all the time. Catch 20-60 minutes of cardio training (running or cycling) at least three times a week, throw the steel for 20-60 minutes three times a week and then add in a long, slow cardio workout at least once or twice a week. Basically an hour a day to stave off death, keep you healthy and stop your belly from ballooning out. Not a bad deal, yeah?

7. Pre-eat. When you go to a holiday party, don’t go hungry. Take a few minutes before you go pre-heat the car to pre-eat for the party. Have a fiber- or protein-based snack. It’ll fill you up and help you stay away from the dessert table.

8. Down the hatch. Okay, when you go to a Christmas or holiday party, more than likely, you’re going to drink. After all, if there weren’t alcohol at the office party, how would we know Phil wears Underoos? Or at least he does when he’s sitting on the copy machine. Anyway. If you’re going to drink, stay away from the pre-mixed drinks like mudslide mixes or margaritas. Those things are sugar bombs waiting to explode in your fat cells. Now this next bit might seem counter-intuitive, but try to drink something stronger with a bitter flavor. That way, you’ll be sipping the drink and taking longer to consume it, rather than quaffing it down and looking for another.

9. No battle plan survives first contact with the enemy. That said, before you arrive at a holiday party, make sure you have a plan for what you’re going to eat. I don’t mean you have to write down — in detail — what you’re going to eat, but know in general what to go for and what to stay away from. Hit the vegetable and dip tray, but stay away from the bread and cheese fondue. If you’re looking for a sweet, try strawberries dipped in dark chocolate rather than the cookies.

10. Hit the hay. Here’s a great idea. Leave the holiday party a little earlier than you normally would. This will give you time to take a short walk after you get home. That little bit of exercise will help you — again — store the food as muscle, rather than fat. Also, it’s nice to take a walk with your sweetie. Finally, if you did drink a bit too much, drink a lot of water before bed along with some dissolved mineral tablets. That will give your body the electrolytes it needs to avoid feeling hung over the next day.

No matter what, though, make sure you enjoy yourself and do it safely. If you don’t look out for you, who will?

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