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Bouncing Back Into The Nest

by Richard

No, I’m not done editing the book. Not by a long shot. What I am done with is whining about it. So, step back. I’m climbing back into the saddle and gonna start blabbing again. So there.

Saw an interesting stat the other day. Interesting as in, I started sweating and my heartbeat raced up into the danger levels and I started swaying back and forth as my lungs labored to bring oxygen to my shock-starved brain. Yeah, that kind of interesting.

According to the latest statistics, more than a million members of the Class of 2008 have come back home to live with mom and dad.

*ack*

The Class of 2008, born during the historic bull market that closed the past century, reached a dubious distinction last year: More than a million of the college graduates have gone back home.

The number of 26-year-olds living with parents has jumped almost 46 percent since 2007, according to Census Bureau data compiled by the University of Minnesota Population Center. Last year, the number of 18- to 30-year-olds living with their parents grew to 20.7 million, a 3.9 percent gain from 2010.

The figures underscore the difficulty that millions of young people have had in finding jobs and starting careers in the U.S. following the longest recession since the Great Depression. About a quarter of American adults between the ages of 18 and 30 now live with parents, while intergenerational households have reached the highest level in more than 50 years.

If you’re smart, you’ll just hit that website link there and try to only read the interesting bits about the kids moving home and try to avoid the clumsy politicking the writer gets into there.

Anyway, I’m not sure this is a good trend. I mean, yeah, I think it’s good that people can have a relationship with their parents that extends after high school, but I think it’s all too easy to fall back into old habits and patterns of rebellious teen and dictatorial parents. I know when Sarcasmo went off to try his hand at college and then returned home, it was an even bigger kerfluffle than before. He kept insisting that he be treated as an adult and could do what he wanted when he wanted.

That did not turn out well. And, it could be that we did not have a unique experience.

About a third of adults 18 to 34 who live with a parent said the move has been good for the relationship, according to a March report by the Pew Research Center’s Social and Demographic Trends Project in Washington. Only 18 percent said the move had caused relationships with their parents to deteriorate.

More than 60 percent of adults 25 to 34 know friends or family members who have moved back with their parents in the past few years because of economic conditions, according to the Pew report. It cited a December telephone poll of 2,048 adults, with a margin of error of plus or minus 2.9 percentage points.

Still, economic realities might just be crashing into issues of privacy and autonomy. That is, if your young dude can’t find a job, there might be no better place to go than home. Though, one thing I’m quite certain of, should we get another boomerang kid, just like we did before, we’re going to insist on getting paid a rent.

We love our boys and want them to have a good life, but we need to realize that we as parents have lives of our own as well.

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Hey, You Kids. . .

by Richard

So Sarcasmo’s graduation was a success. We asked him if he knew the salutatorian. Nope. We asked him if he knew the valedictorian. Nope. But he sure knew the kid who dropped trou and ran across the stage.

Cudos to the school and the auditorium for getting their seventh graduation in and finished in less than 1.5 hours. Very nicely done.

The speaker, however, now that was a different story. It was the graduation-y equivalent of an old guy standing on his porch and yelling, “Hey, you kids, get offa my lawn!”

Seriously, I’m surprised this dude knew what year it was. Most of his talk consisted on encouraging the graduating seniors to abandon their twitters and their facebooks and phones and such and start learning how to handwrite a letter. “Because nothing beats a handwritten letter.”

Basically, what he wanted was for the kids to abandon the wonders of modern technology and go back to the way things were when he graduated all those eons ago. It was a loud, long call to forego the future and embrace what happened to work in the past.

It was, to put it bluntly, the exact opposite of what a high-school graduation speech should be.

In my opinion, high-school graduates and college graduates should be encouraged to embrace the future, to find not what works now or what worked in the past, but what will work in the future. Their lives stretch out before them and they will see changes undreamed of by people of our generation or the previous generation. That is fact.

Trying to cling to the past, encouraging those who will come after you to cling to outmoded expressions of courtesy or personal interaction is just, well, horrible. Lives change. Times change. People should change as well.

Embrace the future. Fight to claim it for your own. Grab on to what’s coming, make it your own and then pass it back to the people who come after you.

And always know the kid who drops trou and runs across the stage.

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